Grief can be explicated as a natural human reaction to loss. People in different stages of life span undergo grief when there is major loss in their life. People usually assume of grief as happening in the perspective of bereavement, the death of a loved one, but it occurs when a close relationship is ended through separation, or when a person is enforced to give up some facet of life that was imperative. This article draw attention to grief, which entails an entire range of emotions and experiences that are caused by a major loss and various ways to deal with grief when a person is building his professional career.
It is a universal truth that grief is not allied to specific culture, though it is experienced by humans in varied form and intensity. Robert Burton described grief as a 'cruel torment'. Scientifically, it is first described as people who had suffered sadness under traumatic circumstances, or who had looked for psychiatric assistance to overcome troubles linked with grief. Grief can be experienced under two broad circumstances, one, when an unexpected and traumatic death or a dependent relationship, it involved strong and prolonged mournful and the other, related with the repression of throbbing thoughts or with an bitter relationship, involved deferred grief. When grief is experienced under traumatic circumstances it is labeled as a post-traumatic stress disorder. It exhibits severe and exaggerated types of grief responses such as severe depression or pronounced panic or anxiety, can lead to a psychiatric diagnosis. Robert Burton highlighted that grief can have adverse affect on health, and gave reference to examples of historical figures who lost their life of grief, such as the Roman Emperor Severus.
The concept of grief is usually understood when it is triggered by a specific loss that's why resolution can only be attained through a long and intricate process of face up to thoughts of the loss, and that there are no easy ways to come up from grieving state. Grief reactions lead to attempts by other people to comfort the grieving people, and this can help. Grieving people mull over their loss in thought, and since it's a cause is a specific event, it subsides. Cobb and Lindemann (1943, pg: 819) wrote: 'It seems that the grieving person can delay his grieving period but not avoid it.' Sanders (1989) stated that it is 'detrimental to try to quell the pain of grief. There are individual differences so each person grieves in his own manner and take his own time to overcome Grief period can be for one year, two years or still longer. At that time, person may be passing by a wave of grief.
In student life, it affects intensely. There are numerous ways to deal with grief. First of all is to share one's happening. It is imperative to express feelings through communication. A close friend or family member is ideal with whom person can speak out his intense feelings and flow his tears. Tears can washout sadness along with anger, guilt, loneliness and exhaustion. Another influential way to deal with grief is to write a diary of event. Write letters to your deceased loved one, share regrets, things you wanted to say that never got said, how you feel, what you miss. Students or employees can contribute to their feelings with colleagues and get better solutions to adjust in life. Grieving person can set specific goal such as making a target to read specific chapter in certain period. In this way, he will actively forget the event happened with him and will be able to concentrate more on studies which will make his life better. When it is difficult to cope up with grief due to great loss, person may join a support group and begin combine studies. Loneliness may enhance bitter feelings and it takes time to come up with grief period. If it continues, it will definitely affect his exam preparation and person has to undergo one more setback that is failure in examination or degradation in professional career. When a person adheres to some social group, he get a chance to talk with others who understand and share the experience of grief and it will work as effective medicine in healing grief. Many ideas are generated while discussing happenings. Grieving person may come out from the grief circle and he may be able to think that there is another world which is waiting for him. It is well understood that grief affects one's mind, body and soul. To come out with grief situation and get success in exams, person must have to care for himself with a healthy diet, exercise and adequate sleep. If possible he may look for professional help. If the grief lasts longer than two months, one must talk with doctor. Best way to cope up with grief situation is to pass time in useful manner such as reading literary or religious books, go to recovery programs, enter therapy or counsel with your minister.
In concluding phrase, Grief is a usual but sometimes a puzzling and irrepressible sentiment. To cope up with grief is a long, aching process. Grief is lessening when we give vent to it. Good cry always help to reduce sore feelings. In grief, source of the emotional feeling is clearly perceived as being external and not due to personal inadequacies so person can again enjoy living and loving, having good appetite back, the pain will weaken, and one will be able to have sound sleep soundly. It is a universal truth that everybody experiences loss in his life and need to find ways to deal with these feelings in a healthy approach.